About Me
David Cooley
My journey to developing the Restorative Relationship Conversation model began in the field of Restorative Justice. As a professional Restorative Circle facilitator and trainer, I had the privilege of helping individuals resolve their interpersonal conflicts together, instead of resorting to the traditional court system. In the course of my work with Restorative Justice, I also received training for working with victims of crime (including trauma-informed care), Cultural & Gender sensitivity & awareness, Non violent Communication, as well as Cultural Brokering. Beyond the context of RJ, I have also been trained in several modalities including Mindfulness Based Practices, Narrative Therapy, Somatic Work, and Attachment Theory.
After leaving the world of Restorative Justice, I was inspired to use the restorative conflict model and re-image it as a tool for helping individuals learn healthier models of conflict resolution, particularly in the context of intimate relationships. I currently offer the Restorative Relationship Conversation process to private clients looking for new and effective ways to address interpersonal conflict and transform it into deeper connection and intimacy.
Values & Intentions Guiding the RRC Process:
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Ensure that everyone has a safe space to process their conflict.
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Demonstrate & model active listening & skillful communication.
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Interrupt and reframe any contentious or hurtful language in a non-judgmental & non-threatening way.
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Recognize and validate the feelings & experiences of each participant.
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Stay aware of and name any personal biases or perceptual blindspots that arise while facilitating.
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Maintain a collaborative stance w/ clients at all times & never impose preconceived ideas or agendas onto the client's process.
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Maintain a posture of open & sincere curiosity at all times & never presuppose to “know” what is happening for the client.
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Track the emotional & somatic cues of each participant & check in verbally when clients appear ‘shut down’ or ‘activated’.
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Honor & respect the uniqueness of each client's experience & identity, and privilege their voice in the process as they get clear about their own needs & wants.