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About Me

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My journey to developing the Restorative Relationship Conversation model began in the field of Restorative Justice. As a professional Restorative Circle facilitator and trainer, I had the privilege of helping individuals resolve their interpersonal conflicts together, instead of resorting to the traditional court system. In the course of my work with Restorative Justice, I also received training for working with victims of crime (including trauma-informed care), Cultural & Gender sensitivity & awareness, Non violent Communication, as well as Cultural Brokering. Beyond the context of RJ, I have also been trained in several modalities including Mindfulness Based Practices, Narrative Therapy, Somatic Work, and Attachment Theory.


After leaving the world of Restorative Justice, I was inspired to use the restorative conflict model and re-image it as a tool for helping individuals learn healthier models of conflict resolution, particularly in the context of intimate relationships. I currently offer the Restorative Relationship Conversation process to private clients looking for new and effective ways to address interpersonal conflict and transform it into deeper connection and intimacy.


David Cooley

Values & Intentions Guiding the RRC Process:

  • Ensure that everyone has a safe space to process their conflict.

  • Demonstrate & model active listening & skillful communication.

  • Interrupt and reframe any contentious or hurtful language in a non-judgmental & non-threatening way.

  • Recognize and validate the feelings & experiences of each participant.

  • Stay aware of and name any personal biases or perceptual blindspots that arise while facilitating.

  • Maintain a collaborative stance w/ clients at all times & never impose preconceived ideas or agendas onto the client's process.

  • Maintain a posture of open & sincere curiosity at all times & never presuppose to “know” what is happening for the client.

  • Track the emotional & somatic cues of each participant & check in verbally when clients appear ‘shut down’ or ‘activated’.

  • Honor & respect the uniqueness of each client's experience & identity, and privilege their voice in the process as they get clear about their own needs & wants.


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